It’s no secret that conversations about sexual behavior can make some folks turn up rather quickly. And there are many, many behaviors that cause folks to project a side-eye, but nothing gets the party hype like asking, “Who among you would sleep with a known bisexual?” Immediately, the “”Hell Naws” start flying out of people’s mouths, tables get flipped over, and twitter feeds light up with caution warnings that there may be a bisexual on the loose. But, why all the ruckus?
I mean it’s as if bisexuals are the most hated folks on the planet. The Gays don’t like ‘em. The Straights don’t like ‘em. Who knows, there may even be a hidden bible verse where God condemns them to Bisexual Hell which may be worse than Gay Hell. ::insert sarcasm here::
And I’ve heard everything. Women say they won’t sleep with a bisexual man because “he is really just gay and playing with people’s emotions.” Then you have rappers like T-Pain who say, “she don’t even like girls but a stack will make her kiss her.” Lesbians feel like bisexual women are “nasty” because they ride a surfboard every now and again. Gay men, don’t seem to care.
So for real, what is the deeper issue with bisexuality? Is it that people are truly afraid that they’ll be on the losing end somehow? Is it that we are conditioned to believe that sex and love is a competition and I can’t compete against someone who “has something I don’t have?”
But the truth is, you can have your heart broken by anyone. You can be “left” by anyone. You will be in competition with everyone if that is your approach to sex and love (I personally and professionally would suggest you stop treating sex and love as a competition). And let’s keep it all the way funky and say that some of you are dating “confused” people right now and they have the same sexual orientation as you. ::side eye happening at this very moment::
So, what’s the real reason good people?
P.S. – If you say “it is a matter of preference,” explain how you developed this preference.
Court is in session…