Apparently, this is a real question that keeps some people up at night. I wish y’all could see the extreme look of confusion on my face right now. Ok, let me get this straight, there are people who want their wedding to “do well” on social media? Let me back up and give you context. The W Hotel is now offering a “social media wedding concierge” for $3,000, to any couple who gets married at one of their four hotels in NYC. You read that right. This is someone who will live-tweet and Instagram your entire wedding (and some other things like attend cake tastings and dress shopping, etc).
Now, I’m not necessarily blown away by the fact that there are people who would gladly pay that amount of money to make their wedding the top-trending event (ok, maybe I am a little bit), but I’m wondering what this says about the “presence” our relationships have. The need to have a “social media footprint” with our sexual, romantic, and intimate relationships seems like the biggest Pimp + Prostitute Scheme of life (you can figure out who plays the pimp and who plays the prostitute at your leisure). Please understand, weddings didn’t just recently become a commodified event, the Wedding Industrial Complex is so real and has been around for a long time, but this is a new level.
I mean let’s be real, there are people out there right now who feel like a relationship isn’t “real” if: it isn’t noted on Facebook; if every profile picture isn’t of you and your boo thang(s); if your arguments followed by the apologies aren’t blasted on your statuses and tweets; if you don’t get 117+ likes on a picture of y’all kissing. I mean it’s as if relationships have become about everyone else except the people involved. Just tell me now: is this something I’m just going to have to accept with the technological age? Is the success of our relationships (or failure) based on how successfully we blend social media accounts, garner virtual attention, and trend?
Court is now in session!
*This post is not about pointing out people who do this, as much as it is about asking if this is becoming the expected norm in our society.